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MOVING

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Moving…

probably one of the worst things I’ve ever done and will ever do. The thing is, we’ve done it so many times, that we can do it eyes shut! Okay, probably not eyes shut, but definitely mechanical.


13 times of moving probably gives one the qualification of an expert! It does not include co-living or lodging though. Add about another 9 to the figure then.


At some stage in our married life, we’ve moved for as many times as we were married. When we celebrated our 10th anniversary, we moved our 9th time a year later!


It has slowed down significantly since then. Thank goodness.


We’ll be celebrating our 23rd wedding anniversary in 2025 and moved the 13th time earlier this year.


We’ve rented, owned, shared, and lodged throughout the years. We can say with confidence that it’s just much more bearable moving to your own property. No rental or co-living!
I was raised in a house where you needed at least 3 months to prepare for a move. But our last 7 moves happened within 2 weeks when the new property became available. Once we actually moved within 3 days!

We used a packing company once to pack for us, the rest of the time it was hubby and I and our boys. Moving between cities we’ve used furniture removal services. But the rest of the time, we rented trailers to move.
When we got married, Hubby had the opinion of paying someone to do stuff for him (snobbish much?!) but has learned in the meantime that there is nothing wrong with his own hands and that a restricted budget is just the thing to teach one the bliss of packing and moving.

Some lessons we’ve learned:

  • No matter how well you pack, something always breaks: it could be a glass, a mirror or a toy. We’ve moved our upright piano a few times in our many moves and although it was crated, covered, packed or whichever way the movers used, two of the white notes still broke. Very sad but at this stage an enjoyable annoyance for one of the kiddos when they played along on the piano. Not so much now.
  • Do not dispose of cardboard boxes: collapse the moving boxes as well as the boxes in which you buy equipment or appliances and store them away. We don’t necessarily use the mixers box for the mixer but it is very useful to pack fragile glassware or move-sensitive electronic equipment into a bigger cardboard box. Also, the boxes in which most appliances are shipped, are strong and thick enough to protect the specific item. Storing these boxes is not as big an issue as one would think and maybe I’ll share how we do it another time
  • Clean house! Packing is one of the most valuable opportunities to rid your house of all that hidden clutter! The stuff that you pack away for one day. We all know that when a project is not started and finished within a few months from the start date, it will never happen
  • Prepare the children: we found that the children want to know. And they want to be part of it. There are enough tasks during the move that they can help with. If you have little ones, let them pack their own toys, additional clothes, bookshelves and such. If you have CDs and DVD shelves, let them pack those. Explain to them that it’s still something they need to handle with care and help them see a ‘system’ in their packing. Start with little boxes for wee little ones. Another cupboard they can help pack is the linen cupboard. Although I prefer packing the linen at the bottom of the breakables boxes, it leaves more than enough that they can help with. Remember your plastic cupboard and trays/baking tray cupboard. Also ‘hard labour’ resistant!
  • Pack the children’s room last: it helps to create a sense of security for an extended period of time. In the new house, organise little people’s rooms first with beds made, least boxes standing around and curtains hung.
  • Organise the bedrooms first AFTER the move with at least two things in place: curtains and beds. The rest can wait for tomorrow.
  • Keep basic toiletries separate from everything. Know where this box or bag is at all times. Nobody appreciates unbrushed teeth or the unavailability of toilet paper. Ask me how I know…
  • Determine what will be needed in the kitchen, bathroom, scullery, etc for the last week before the move and put that in a special cupboard or higher shelve. The rest are safe to be packed. Be reasonable with this. Ask yourself the questions that matter: Are we going to go snowboard this coming week? Did I plan pizzas for this week? Do we need the slow cooker and the bread machine? Are we going to use all 16 big plates for the 4 of us? Etc. You know what your family needs and you know your family’s routine.
  • Make a list! We usually have a clipboard with sheets of paper numbered 1 to 50 for starters (or whichever number of boxes you estimate), a pen or marker, a stack of blank white stickers and a bag of brown tape for sealing up boxes. Every time a box is closed, we seal it with brown tape. Then it gets a sticker with a number. The list gets a description of the box contents. For example, the DVD box is ready to be closed up and sealed. The next open number on the list is 17 and we stick a sticker on the box with 17 written on it. We write a summary of the contents of the box onto our list next to number 17 and then only is it sealed up with the brown tape.
  • Allocate one area in your house where the sealed-up boxes can be stacked up: this opens up space to work, is out of accident way and prevents any scenarios of stagnation. There is nothing that freaks most people out than boxes standing everywhere! This has worked well with our last 10 moves. One particular move we we moved out of a very small house, with already limited room under normal circumstances, it was super crowded during our move. It also limited the temptation for our little ones to climb ONTO the boxes when we were not around.
  • Quick and easy meals: this would be the one day in my meal planning where takeaways are necessary. If not takeaways make snackwiches or sandwiches or muffins. If you have some kind friends who are willing to cook up a storm on your behalf, bonus! Another option is the prepared meals available now from all the major supermarkets eg. Checkers buffet is amazing, Spar and Pick’nPay’s are not too shabby. But the reality is that our people need to eat even when the task at hand is probably the most traumatic and horrendous a family can endure. Lift a little from your shoulders and let this one time slide. Tomorrow you can do the cereal and milk or buns and cold meat shortcut meals but today, get the tummies full! Something else to keep in mind would be heaps of fruit and fresh water. I try to keep this at hand most times when moving.
  • Keep the toiletries close: We usually keep a small suitcase aside. This suitcase includes everybody’s pj’s for the first night in the new house. We also pack the necessary toiletries and towels for the morning before the move and first night at the new house. Additionally, we include a comfortable set of clean clothes for the first day in the new house. Remember comfort! The big unpacking is going to start then.
  • Always use smaller boxes: we’ve found that book boxes from a retailer like Boxman are perfect. It’s a little bit more pricey but it keeps. It can take a load of books (we have lots of books) and keeps crockery and other breakables safe and sound. And it’s easier to move and stack. We’ve moved with all sizes of boxes and I promise you, bigger boxes might take a lot of stuff but it breaks and falls apart with the handling and then you need to pack it into two or three other smaller boxes.
  • Invest in bubble wrap. I know it’s not eco-friendly at all. Neither are tons of newspapers. Pick your poison. Price-wise, it’s the same really whether you buy 2 rolls of bubble wrap or buy 20 Sunday papers.
  • Move clothes in suitcases and duffle bags. Most of us have all sizes from all sorts of events collected throughout our lives, use these to pack your clothes. Box companies do have clothing boxes available but I’ve found it’s incredibly clumsy to move. Another option if you are moving in the same town/neighbourhood, allocate one of your vehicles with a boot (trunk for my US readers) and load it up with all your hanging clothes. A surprising amount of clothes fit into a boot in this way. If your shoes are in their boxes, you can line the bottom of the boot with the boxes and put the clothes on top, otherwise, a garbage bag full of shoes is a good second best. Of course, you can fill up packing boxes with clothes. Avoid using big boxes just because the illusion exists that it will be light. It won’t.
  • Remember to pack up the garage, if you have one. This is the one space we’ve forgotten about until the day before the move! Garden equipment, tools, bicycles and those other stored items, are clumsy and difficult to pack. It will most probably be moved just the way it is, but do yourself a favour and grab a box to fill. You’ll be surprised what can be packed.

Well, this is our list of absolute bare necessities learned in the whole house-moving adventures.


This was a long post but hopefully, there are some pointers you could use.


Good luck with your move, I hope this helped.
Cheers

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When someone elses addiction causes you pain…jump on a ship!

Hello my dear readers

I’m so happy to finally bring you this blog post.

Since the last time I added a #BAS post, the series name changed. Books 1, 2 and 3 became available on Amazon. They will also soon become available everywhere else books are sold. AND!!!

Drumroll please…

My author shop came online! I’m so happy about this, you have no idea.

Back to the post at hand.

I’m very happy to introduce you to Book 4 in my The Unknown Series (previously Cape of Good Hope Series).

What is my #BAS posts?

I make my pre-edited books available to my readers here for free.

Each story has been written, rewritten and proofread but NOT professionally edited. This is my in-between step while I’m working with my editor. It allows me to get your feedback and opinions. Without my readers I can’t be a writer, so please don’t hold back!

Back to this new series of #BAS.

This book is titled Marcus & Alexandra.

The idea for the story came from the first ‘adult’ book I read when I burned through our town library.

This is very much a hidden gender or mistaken gender trope story.

Alexandra is my heroine and she becomes part of a transaction with a pirate. She does not take one for the team. She hides her gender and escapes onto a merchant ship. The ship set sail from the Fair Cape to Europe during the 1820’s.

Marcus is the hero in this story. He’s made his appearance in Jack & Jool and Zara & William. After tragedy in his life, he’s taking to the sea again.

You’ll encounter a setting larger than life, colorful side characters and then the notorious antagonist in this story.

Anyways, like the previous books in this series, this book will become available chapter by chapter every Friday, 20:00, CAT / GMT+2)

Here’s a version of the description.

After nearly a decade of education in England, William Tredoux returns home to find not just a family estate. He discovers a familiar servant girl who has transformed into a breathtaking young woman named Zara. Her presence ignites memories of their childhood, yet the layers of mystery surrounding her past remain untouched. Zara entered the Tredoux household under enigmatic circumstances. She has been a devoted member of the family ever since. She yearns for a life beyond the confines of servitude.

When William reveals the truth about Zara’s heritage, their worlds collide in a whirlwind of emotions and opportunities. Suddenly, Zara is thrust into a life of privilege. She had only glimpsed this from afar. She leaves behind the shackles of her past. However, this change does not come without its trials. Those who have long looked down on Zara are unhappy with her elevation and conspire to undermine her newfound happiness. As love blossoms amidst adversity, Zara must navigate the treacherous waters of societal expectations and personal discovery. Will she rise to claim her rightful place, or will the shadows of her past threaten to tear them apart? Join Zara and William on a transformative journey filled with love, identity, and the courage to defy the odds.

Marcus & Alexandra (The Unknown Series) by Anne C West

Like the previous #BAS posts, it will be password-protected which is available for my newsletter subscribers. I’ll send you reminders every Saturday. They will include a link and the password to read this book for free.

For the rest of you, please subscribe to my newsletter at the bottom of this post to receive the reminder.

And that is it for today.

Until next time


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So I’m Curious…could pausing be an act of love

A client had this small nugget she dumped in my lap when we had a call once.

Since our calls are usually around death and taxes, we start it off enquiring about the children, the grandkids, the extended family, the struggles, the whoo-whoo, politics, the weather, and whatever else, to put off the conversation about death and taxes.

This one particular call, she dropped it in there, ‘If you loved yourself, what would you do’.

To say it startled me to silence is not exactly how it was. It was worse.

My brain froze. My tongue went numb. And I doubted my hearing.

Let’s call her Suzie.

‘What would you do in this moment, right now, if you loved yourself?’

Suzie giggled nervously.

Thinking back now, I think the question surprised her as well.

When my brain finally decided to work again, I thought, quit. Close the business. Resign from all the clients I had. Move the extended family back to where they came from. And quit.

Since Suzie was my client, I couldn’t exactly tell her that!

Fear is a disconcerting thing.

  • What if she fired me as her service provider if she knew the truth?
  • Where will I get money from?
  • Who will help the disabled family?

These were some of the questions that rambled through my mind.

‘Nearly 100% of the time when I feel overwhelmed and bogged down and I ask myself ‘what would I do if I loved myself?’ the answer comes back ‘nothing’. And nearly all of the situations it was exactly what I had to do, nothing. It sorted out in the end.’ Suzie went on to explain.

My mind rattled on with this uncomfortable revelation. We got through the call. We finalised the taxes. And we said our goodbyes to continue the conversation in a year again.

Fast forward nearly a year, and I’m on the phone with Suzie again. Yes. It’s death and taxes time.

We go through the normal ramblings about the children, the grandkids, the extended family, the struggles, the whoo-whoo, politics, the weather and whatever else to put off the usual inevitable conversation about death and taxes.

‘It feels the harder I work, the less I have to show. I think all of us feel this way.’

Don’t you just feel the exhaustion from these simple and honest words?

As is my usual way, I blurted out, ‘What would you do, if you loved yourself?’

Those simple words helped Suzie to get quiet at that moment.

What Suzie didn’t know at this time was how much that single question helped me with various difficult times that were forced on me the preceding year.

Every time I felt exhausted or drained or just ready to quit, I would ask myself ‘What would I do if I loved myself?’

Every time I wanted to violently dispose of an obstacle, I would ask myself ‘What would I do if I loved myself?’

Every time I felt a bit volatile and emotional or my insomnia-riddled mind gave me wool when I asked for clarity, I would ask myself ‘What would I do if I loved myself?’

I can say with absolute conviction that every time, the answer was nothing.

Nothing sometimes looked like shutting down the computer. Or take a nap. Or postpone a meeting. Or cancel a meeting altogether. Or ignore a phone call. Or answer a message later.

How did I know that nothing wasn’t just laziness or abdication or an excuse? How did I know that nothing was just ignoring what I didn’t want to deal with? Or just a bad habit?

Because, every time, nothing was the best solution to the problem. My actions, words and solution would have prolonged the drama, complicated the outcome or postponed the inevitable. More information also became available in some situations that allowed me and my co-conspirators to study all of what was available.

Doing nothing is sometimes the quickest path to peace and wisdom. Both conditions from which we as humans can think clearly. We do our best work from a place of peace and wisdom.

Doing nothing saved my skin a few times as well. A hasty decision. A mistake. A dodged bullet.

From the obvious theme of the question, loving myself, I’m surprised at the pause it brings to me. Not only am I confronted with loving or hating on myself in the moment but I pause.

Before I continue any more, I can’t take the credit for this tool. I’m gaining nothing from sharing this with you just proposing a tool to help in moments of stress or struggle. My client Suzie went on to work through the course by Eilat Aviram. You can find more information about Eilat and her work on her website ifilovedmyself.com. Here the loving yourself part is explained and developed as the writer of the book and course intended. Please have a look if you so please.

Back to nothing…

Asking myself ‘What would I do if I loved myself?’ has helped me create that distance between the problem and my thoughts and actions.

It’s helped me to get to know myself. It’s helped me to focus on myself.

Through pausing and stepping back, I’m learning the ways to love myself. Too many times we push through stuff that brings harm to our very being. Harm we seldom realise we inflicted until much later.

Prevention is better than cure, is the adage. And truer words are seldom remembered. Most of our harm we brought to ourselves. Sometimes unknowing such as childhood trauma when our loved ones neglect their responsibility in teaching us certain things.

As adults though, we have the reigns in our own hands and are we responsible for the harm we do to ourselves. Harm which we also do unknowingly because we don’t slow down. We don’t pause. We don’t move from a place of love, peace and wisdom.

I’ve always wanted to get to this place that Stephen R Covey wrote about in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families ‘Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.’

Nothing has become the symbolism for the gap or space to calm down, to get back to the now where life actually happens instead of in the future, bogged down by what is not even there yet and almost never is! Or the past where we are powerless to change it and just learn from it.

So I’m curious…what would you do if you loved yourself?

**Please send me an email with your feedback at anne@annecwest.co.za. Comments vanish and get missed, hence emails.**

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Some updates around the web with Anne C. West material

Hi blogosphere!

Have a dashing Tuesday.

With a cup of coffee or tea, hop over to:

As always, email me at anne@annecwest.co.za for a chat or a question.

Otherwise, see you around

Cheers!

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Behind the Pages: The South African Influence on My Writing PART I


For those unfamiliar, I am a writer from South Africa. Born here and raised here.

Over the course of 5 posts, potentially more, I’ll share about me behind the pages. I will discuss what influenced me as a writer. I will also share how being South African influenced my writing.

My youth

During my teen years we transitioned from apartheid to the democracy we currently have. From a teenage point of view, life was simple. Everything had a specific path. Everybody followed that specific path. Stay in the lines and all was well. Very conservative and very religious. Also very racist. This one never rubbed off on me and I still don’t get it. No questions ever asked. No explanations ever given. Not to mention demanded. Just no. It was subtly taught in schools, from the pulpit, media, you name it. Looking back, the funny thing is that it doesn’t seem as if it ever crossed anybody’s mind to ask. Nobody seemed to question or go against the flow. It’s as if generations of propaganda just stumped out curiosity. It’s actually fascinating!

Transitioning from one governmental system went along with immense fear. I remember the intensely heightened emotions on all sides.

What a crazy time.

I loved our town library. I discovered the concept of libraries when I was elected to Media Center Prefect in standard 4 or grade 6! Fancy name for library duty and no lazy break in between classes. As prefect I learned how to pack the shelves. I organized the cards used to keep track of the books lent out. I also explored the absolutely fascinating world of fiction and non-fiction.

I read my way through our primary school library in those two years. Those were the two years that remained of my primary school years. I mourned the very well stocked library when I discovered the pathetically stocked high-school library.

Enter our town library.

It was nothing fancy or massive but it was amazing! I used my mom and dad’s names to get access to more books. I was limited to four books for a maximum of two weeks. It became exhausting to peddle to the library every second day to exchange the four books. It became worth the effort when I peddled to the library with 12 books every Friday.

Political side of my youth


At the time, I was completely ignorant and unaware of the political environment. I did not understand the impact of said environment on information, literature, music, movies, sports, education, and such. and the limitations we were actually living under.

So many prolific writers, journalists and others were living in exile. Their books, articles, plays and such were banned here and only available after democracy were established.

Our education was shaped around the ideologies of the leaders in our country. Therefore, history, literature, sciences and other subjects were taught with definite agendas and objectives.

It’s actually fascinating and ingenious! But very much part of all governmental systems.

Also exhausting. Can you imagine how closely all things had to be monitored? All the policing strategies that was in place to uphold the propaganda machine?

I believe in literature the dystopia genre explores this type of environment. An environment I, ironically, have no desire to explore in my stories! Isn’t that funny? Write what I know… maybe not.

**I promised myself to keep blog posts to no more than 500 words so I’ll end this post here.

Thanks for reading. Look out for the next post in this series where I’ll go into a little bit more detail about my writing

Cheers!

Continue reading…

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Timeline Before 30 April 2024

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My dearest readers and visitors

I’m happy you’re here.

It’s been quite quiet on this blog, not because life is quiet, I’ve been doing what I do best: OVERTHINKING.
Anyody else suffering from this?

DON’T! It’s a terribly limiting habit with only harmful consequences.
Preaching to the choir…

Anyways, I’ve been putting off picking up the blogging habit because I wondered what to write about. What would you want to read? Will anybody read it? What is the use? You catch my drift.

Then after a looooonnnngggg winded affair, I realised, I want to blog because I like blogging. If somebody reads this, bravo! If nobody reads this, bravo!

I like it.

Enough waffling on about this, let me get to the blog post for today.

I listened to an interview on The Creative Penn with Jo Penn. She interviewed Sacha Black about her author business. They talked about the timeline, the progress, etc. Jo mentioned the page on her website where she’s been recording the progress of her own writing career.

I thought that’s amazing! I wanted one of those pages. I started digging through my archives. I compiled this list of when I did what in my author career.

I will record this on my own TIMELINE page after reviewing the year that was.
This is the first year I am taking my author career seriously. I decided to take May 2024 as the start of my official fiction author career. Therefore this is the collection of events unfolding prior to May 2024.

I shared a little bit of info on the TIMELINE page about when I actually started writing. I mentioned how I have a history of being on and off with my writing career. So, I’m not going to add that here.

I think, let’s get into it:

2016

Published Amazon Appointment to Die 1 December 2016
Published Amazon Pebble in my Brick 2 December 2016
Published Amazon Walking the Pages 3 December 2016
Published WIDE Appointment to Die 3 December 2016
Published WIDE Pebble in my Brick 3 December 2016
Published WIDE Walking the Pages 4 December 2016

2017

Joined Wattpad 22 April 2017

2018

Joined StoryOrigin April 2018

2019

Published Amazon Beauty and the Vampire 19 January 2019
Published Amazon A Genocide 19 January 2019
Published WIDE A Genocide 19 January 2019
Published WIDE Beauty and the Vampire 19 January 2019
Republished Amazon Beauty and the Vampire 20 February 2019
Republished Amazon A Genocide 20 March 2019
Published Amazon A Day of Celebration 17 December 2019
Published WIDE A Day of Celebration 18 December 2019

2020

Joined Prolific Works March 2020
Published Amazon Frances & Gilbert 17 July 2020
Published Amazon Jack & Jool 3 October 2020
Published Kobo Jack & Jool 6 October 2020
Joined Bookfunnel 29 October 2020

2021

Published Amazon Zara & William 31 January 2021
Published Kobo Zara & William 31 January 2021

2022

Joined X (Twitter) for the 2nd time July 2022
Created Facebook Author Page 6 September 2022
Created Instagram at some stage…

2023


Published Author Shop A Day of Celebration 25 February 2023
Published Author Shop A Genocide 26 February 2023
Published Author Shop Beauty and the Vampire 26 February 2023
Published Author Shop Pebble in my Brick 26 February 2023
Published Author Shop Appointment to Die 26 February 2023
Published Kobo A Day of Celebration 10 March 2023
Published Kobo A Genocide 10 March 2023
Published Kobo Beauty and the Vampire 10 March 2023
Published Kobo Pebble in my Brick 20 March 2023
Published Kobo Appointment to Die 10 April 2023
Published Kobo Walking the Pages 8 April 2023
Published Amazon Notebooks 9 May 2023
Published WIDE Notebooks 10 May 2023
Joined TikTok 14 May 2023
Published Amazon The Harmony Bridge 28 May 2023
Joined Threads July 2023
Published Kobo The Harmony Bridge 15 August 2023
Published WIDE The Harmony Bridge 15 August 2023
Published Kobo Notebooks 1 September 2023

2024

Joined Goodreads for the 2nd time April 2024
Republished Amazon Frances & Gilbert 1 April 2024

EARNINGS

Amazon earnings from February 2019 to February 2024 R42.59
Kobo earnings R0
Draft2Digital earning R0
Direct sales earnings $45

That’s it until April 2024.

All I can say is, WOW! Indecisiveness, double-mindedness, doubt, insecurities, impatience, those are all things that only do harm. Can you imagine if I just stuck it out? All the stories that’s been simmering for years could have been out there in the world for all to enjoy.

I would also have been able to say that I’ve found my voice as an author. Or, I’ve found my genre.
Life is such an interesting journey.

But it’s what it is. We have now and we have our attitude. The rest of the things are outside our control. As an indie author, I can also say that I have technology that makes this possible, so use it, right?
That’s it for today, I’ll chat to you soon.

Cheers
Anne

PS. Future timeline posts will go to the timelines page